BREA · FIND SUPPORT
Showing Up With Love.
Supporting someone you care about can mean listening, helping with everyday things, or simply being present. You don’t need all the answers to make a difference.
01 · Words That Help
Sometimes, Being There Is Enough.
When someone is facing uncertainty or cancer treatment, finding the right words can feel difficult. Listening and respecting their feelings are often more helpful than trying to find the perfect thing to say.
What Could I Say?
Example phrases only — this is not a messaging service.
Situation: Someone shares a diagnosis
Why it may help: Acknowledge what they’ve shared without making assumptions about how they feel.
Gentle Swaps
Instead of “Just stay positive!”
Try “It’s okay to have difficult days. I’m here for you.”
Pressure to stay positive can make people feel they must hide how they really feel.
Instead of “I know exactly how you feel.”
Try “I can’t fully know what you’re experiencing, but I’d like to understand.”
Every experience is personal. Curiosity leaves room for their own story.
Instead of “Everything will definitely be fine.”
Try “I care about you, and you don’t have to go through this without support.”
Nobody can promise outcomes. Steady presence is something you can genuinely offer.
02 · Little Acts of Care
Love Can Look Like the Little Things.
Practical support can make everyday responsibilities feel more manageable. Rather than assuming what someone needs, offer specific help and respect their answer.
Appointments & Transport
Offer a lift, accompany someone if invited, or help organise travel.
- Driving to and from appointments
- Keeping someone company in the waiting room, if invited
- Helping plan parking or public transport
Instead of something vague“Let me know if you need anything.”
Try a specific offer“I’m free on Thursday morning. Would a lift to your appointment be helpful?”
Always ask first. Respect someone’s independence, privacy and preferences. Any medical tasks should follow guidance from their healthcare professionals.
03 · Caring for Yourself, Too
Your Wellbeing Matters, Too.
Supporting someone you care about can be meaningful and emotionally demanding. You also deserve rest, understanding and support.
Caring for someone doesn’t mean putting every part of your own life aside.
Brea shares educational examples only. It does not offer counselling or medical advice, and nothing here is saved about the person you support. Respect their autonomy, consent and confidentiality.